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The Importance of Being Authentic: by Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT Grief and Loss Counseling

What does being authentic mean?   Being authentic means being true to yourself.  It means that you will pay attention to what your mind, heart, body and spirit are needing and telling you each day. Your body will tell you, don’t drink anymore, don’t eat any more, please move me around and if you listen,

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9 Thoughts About Being Present With People in Grief: by Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT, Grief and Loss Counseling

It never ceases to amaze me how ill prepared we are for death.  We  don’t know how to talk to our family and friends about it.  We shy away from comforting people who are experiencing loss, or we talk to them in a way that does not really help them. Here are some of my

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Using Writing To Help With the Grieving Process: Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT, Santa Rosa Grief and Loss Counselor

When you are in the middle of big loss and the world seems cold and lonely, writing can help you get through some tough hours.  Journaling can help you feel that there is somewhere you can write all the words that are bottled  up inside of you.  Write and keep on writing.  Don’t worry if

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Happy New Year: Thoughts and Reflections for the Coming Year: Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT Grief and Loss Counseling

A new year holds exciting possibilities!  New chances to make your life more joyful, new relationships, working on being more healthy, more mindful. What I see as really important is that a new year holds hope that we humans can make better choices for ourselves, do more self-care, and really explore in a more thorough way

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Using Winter as a Journey in Self Reflection: Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT Grief and Loss Counseling

The long, silent winter is here. the Holidays are upon us and people are running around trying to get ready.  I hope you will try to keep things simple as to keep the stress levels down.                                      

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Grief and Loss Counseling by Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT: Families and the Holidays

Families can be the source of joy, comfort and connection, or they can be the source of sorrow, pain and no real solid connection. We cannot change anyone other than ourselves, but we can change how we react to any given person, family or not. If your family is difficult for you, then I imagine

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Grief and Loss Counseling, by Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT: Coping Through the Holidays

If you have experienced the death of a family member or close friend right around this time of year, it can bring up extra stress for you. There it is, lights, carols, music, presents to think about, food, get togethers, and there you are sad, lonely, upset and not really ready to be in the

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Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT, Grief and Loss Counseling: Are You Helping or Are You Being Co-Dependent?

It is hard to watch people you love suffer, whether it be from an illness, a bad relationship, financial woes, or addiction issues.  It is difficult to see someone struggling in their life, and it is also difficult to stay clear of our own need to help that person.  There is also the issue of

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Frieda L. Ferrick,MFT Grief and Loss Counseling:Anxiety: Paying Attention to Mind, Body and Spirit

Do you feel butterflies in your stomach?  Are you feeling stressed?  Do you struggle with fear that seems to be taking over your life?  You might be experiencing anxiety. Anxiety is a feeling, a symptom that lets you know that all is not well with your body, mind and spirit.  Its symptoms can feel physical

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Grief and Loss Counseling by Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT: Dealing With Loss Around The Holidays

Halloween is now past which means, before you know it, Thanksgiving, Chanukah and then Christmas will be here.  So it is time to talk about losses and how to deal with the holidays that are just around the corner.  There are different losses that we all have to deal with over our lifetime.  There is

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