Author: Frieda

Loss

Loss sometimes tiptoes in, quietly, just whispers of something that has gone wrong Sometimes, it is a raging beast bringing us such pain that it can be hard to breathe, laugh, talk Sometimes, our loss is repairable sometimes it is not It can be a loss of a job, a home, our own health, a

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The Work of a Counselor

So, what do I do as a counselor? There are several things I try to do for my clients. I listen, so I can understand who the client is and what are their issues. I interpret what they are saying so they can also understand and therefore, go deeper into our work together. I validate

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Holding Hope, During Dark Times

There are times in our lives when we may feel overwhelmed with what we need to do, alone in our sadness and despair that our lives will ever change or get better. This blog will address, how do we hold hope during the dark times in our lives? It is important to know that you

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The Gift of Boredom

In our busy lives, we are programmed to be busy. There is honor in being active now. That means being busy even when we are not at work. There are chores, and social events that keep us running Adults and children both seem to be distracted by their gadgets, they are not interacting with others

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Kintsuigi: The Art of Repairing the Broken

Sometimes events in our lives get worse before they get better.  It may  seem hard to hear, but if you think about it, many things in our lives work out that way.  For example, when we learn to drive, we are  awkward at first, yet over time we become more accomplished.  As we  learn math,

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I Can’t Read Your Mind!

I think a lot of people get into trouble in their relationships, feel hurt because they don’t feel loved or understood.  So here, is where my title comes in, I can’t read your mind.  You can’t read mine. We think ideally that people that know us well, should be able to get what we need

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To Your Own Self Be True

Being Authentic in a busy world is  challenging.  Some days all we can do is get up, and get out of the door to go off to school, work, being at home with children or whatever else we may do in the mornings.  So why  is being authentic so significant, and what does that actually

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Being Authentic in a Challenging World, by Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT

When we are children, many of us, not all, are wired to please our parents. If they are wise, they help their children to figure out who they are and where their talents lie. If they are immature, and want their children to mirror their achievements, then those children do not have an opportunity while

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Aging Gracefully in A Difficult World: by Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT, 9/18/2017

Part of aging gracefully in today’s culture is learning about self-care.  Women, in particular get confused with the difference between being selfish and taking care of themselves.  Self-care is critical so that you can have energy and health to help others, get your job done and enjoy life. Being selfish is wanting something and not

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Aging Gracefully in a Difficult World by Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT, 9/17/2017

September 17, 2017 Some days it may be hard to get out of bed, face the world, face yourself and get moving. I am going to be your buddy on a daily or almost daily basis, a cheerleader for you and for myself. We are all going to age unless we die young, hard things

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