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Frieda L. Ferrick, Santa Rosa Counseling: Grieving the Loss of a Child

There is no loss as shocking and devastating as the death of one’s child.  It is a war of the senses and your whole world is turned upside down  You will not be the person you were. The grief that wells up is deep and primal. There can be a feeling of injustice and unfairness.

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Frieda L. Ferrick, MFT, Santa Rosa Counseling: Some Thoughts About The Importance of Empathy

The definition of empathy is:  “Understanding what someone else is feeling because you have experienced it yourself or can put yourself in their shoes.” In order to have true empathy for others, I feel it is important to have empathy for yourself. Learning about what empathy is and becoming in tune with yourself can begin

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Frieda L. Ferrick, Santa Rosa Counseling: Did You Hope You Were Going To Be Married Only Once?

A difficult loss for many is going through a divorce.  The questions that you could be asking are endless: What happened? Weren’t we supposed to be together forever? Am I ever going to fall in love again? What am I going to do with my life? Let’s face it, going through divorce can feel devastating.

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Frieda L. Ferrick, Santa Rosa Counseling, Grief, Sadness and Being Stuck

When someone you love dies, in this life as we know it, that is the last time we see that person.  These huge losses change us forever.  We will never hear that loved one’s voice, hear them cry, sing, yell or laugh.  So where does that love go?  I believe that love is still in

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10 Dumb Things to Say to Someone in Grief

People, in the their mistaken way of trying to say something comforting to someone who has had a family member or a close friend die, will say something that they think is helpful but really could be annoying or irritating.  So, here is my list; please be careful of what you say to someone who

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Lessons from the story of the Tortoise and the Hare

Do you remember the story of the tortoise and the hare?  The hare was fast and when he and the tortoise engaged in a race,  he was so sure he was going to win that he kept distracting himself and doing other things, while the tortoise kept plodding along. The hare was flashy, the tortoise

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Emotional Issues That May Come Up When You Receive An Organ Transplant

The  time has come.  You are going to receive an organ transplant.  You have waited and waited and finally you get that phone call.  Soon you will be going to the hospital, having surgery and hopefully having a better quality of life then you have had for the last few years.  You have been told

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Cultivating the Garden of Your Mind, Body and Spirit

How do you keep growing and moving forward in your life? How do you live the days of your life? Are you worried all the time? Are you running around and having little time to do what you really love to do? Do you feel anxious, worried, sad? Are you distant from family and friends?

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New Beginnings, New Possibilities

Well the holidays are now over, all the excitement, the bustle, the worrying about getting it all done. For some, there might be a feeling of slight blueness, let down. Now there is still winter to contend with. The days are still shorter and the nights long. In some areas of our country it will

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So What Do You Do When You Fall in Love, Want To Get Married and You Are From Different Religions?

You have met someone.  It feels as though they are the one you want to be with for the rest of your life.  So you start to talk about marriage.  What do you do if you come from different religions?There are some important discussions to have before getting married.  If you can reach some agreements

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