Archive for January, 2009

The Psychological and Spiritual Aspects of Aging

Friday, January 16th, 2009

  What does it mean to grow older?  How will we all handle the challenges that will face us?   All of us human beings will either grow old or we will die  at a younger age.  Yet we rarely talk about what this means to us individually and collectively.  The body starts to slow down and refuses to move in the way it used to move.  We no longer have the energy, and the ability to keep going as we once did.

Benefits of age and aging, problems of aging and age

     We know there are benefits to this process, but because the body no longer looks or acts as it once did,  we have a difficult time acknowledging this slow down.

     In other societies seniors are given a status that our society does not give them.  Our worth is tied up with our producitivity.  So when we retire, our value goes down.  Males seem to suffer more from this change than females.  Males, traditionally have been the bread winners.  They have been valued as the ones who earn more money.  This has been changing as families are changing and there are more women at the head of their families.  But women have also traditionally been more available for friendships and creating communities that are satisfying to the heart.

So what do we need to do in order to not only survive but also how do we threive?  I feel it is important to start facing the challenges of aging way before our 80’s.  We need to make decisions to be more connected with family, friends, community, a religious or spiritual practice and we need to keep moving our bodies and our brains.  If we are open and honest and make plans when we are healthy, then even though we might have some difficulties awaiting us, we will be more prepared.

As we age we are more able to be ourselves, accept our strengths and weaknesses.  Accept what we have accomplished and understand we might never do all that we were hoping to do and that is okay!

Winter Reflection: Do You Use Winter as a Journey in Self Reflection?

Friday, January 9th, 2009

It’s a new year, the hoopla, the holidays after over.  Now the long silent winter is here. Winter is a wonderful time to be warm and cozy, it is time to be home more and it is a time for self reflection.  Winter   is also a wonderful metaphor for our inner journey.  In winter it doesn’t look like much is happening to the naked eye.  The trees have shed their leaves, the annimals are surviving in the cold.  We humans, are still bustling around keeping busy and hopefully not ignoring this change to look inward.   For in order for spring to happen there is alot of work being done unnoticed.

     This is the time in nature when all the work is being done underground.  We humans, have periods of time when we are working internally doing alot of thinking and planning,  making changes silently, as we go about  our business of transformation.

     Some people use meditation as the method of transforming their selves, others use therapy as a method of coming to terms with who they are and where they want to go in their lives.

    This is the time to ask questions of oneself, 1.  Who am I?  2.  What do I want to accomplish in my lifetime?  3.  Am I being the best that I can be?  4.  Am I connected to the important people in my life?  5.  If I had a short time left on the earth could I leave feeling peaceful?

     So winter is a perfect time to reflect, to plan and to get ready for the spring.